The Art of Being
This day in age, it seems that everyone, everywhere is running their tight and fit little asses off…particularly in the dynamic city of New York where professionals expect to smoosh a midwestern hour or more into a hot, power packed NY minute. Sometimes this energy is contagious and others, it is just plain exhausting and a turn off. A lot of my friends have a mindset that “If I’m not constantly doing something, then I am a worthless piece of shit.” or, “If I am not actively working on growing my business or making more money, I am a failure”. Whoa nelly, where does this come from?! In actuality, when we are just “being” instead of “doing” (we are called human beings, not human doings), we are being passively active…the best and most energy-preserving kind! Now, I am a Capricorn, so I get it. I am the mountain goat that climbs mountains (literally and figuratively) and I love saying I am going to do something, and accomplishing it. However, even I, the mountain goat, get scared off buy some the NYC buzz. We women are supposed to be receptive beings, and when we are in the go-go-go state, we are pretty damn masculine (not hot! Ask your boyfriend!). Grasping and running energy is actually very tangible and you can feel it. Not many people want to date, marry, be friends with or work with a person who doesn’t even have time to breath. When you are at ease with the work that you do and you are comfortable being in your own skin and being in your own presence, people will be drawn to you–no hijacking necessary. Now, obviously there is a fine line between the mindset of “It will fall in my lap” and being at ease. No doubt about it, sometimes we need to work for what we desire, but after that, we need to reap the benefits…not cover them up, discount them or not pay attention to them by working some more. Most of us also need that rest time to balance and regroup just so our cells can regenerate. I am convinced that a lot of people with cancer were constantly in a state of “do” instead of “be”. When you are moving around quickly and hurriedly, your body mistakes it for a life-threatening situation. So, imagine, your body is continuously in survival mode and your nervous system, adrenal system, respiratory system, hormonal system and every other system is highly stressed and battling a perceived threat all day long for days on end. Cancer is when cells are dividing rapidly and abnormally…remember, form follows thought, so what do you think you are informing your body to do? At that rate, forget being of service to others. At that point, you can not be a productive or effective business owner, mom, wife, anything! If your true goal is to help others, help yourself first. For a period of time each day, just practice being. Maybe this includes a meditation, maybe it doesn’t. If you are an active meditator (You have an agenda, protocol, ritual, etc), this does not count as being, because it is still active. Just be a human being from the olden days. If you can’t milk a cow, play with dogs. Try a nap, a TV show, a tickle fest…anything that does not need to be checked off of a “to do list”. Challenge yourself to actually hang out with yourself. You know how they say that you know you found “the one” when you can sit there silently and it is not uncomfortable? The same is true for yourself, although so many peeps can’t do it! Dude, YOU are THE ONE! If you can’t be comfy in your own company, we’ve got a serious problem. Try to go on a date solo (even if at home) and see if you can be with yourself. Make a running list, and each day, add something about yourself that is really cool. Call it: Duh, I am Awesome to BE Around or something like that. I guarantee that in this state, you will attract more clients, men, money, shoes or whatever it is you want to attract! Alright Bella Beauties, On-the-go living is a recipe for burnout. Take a step back and chill out. Your body, your clients, children, co-workers and the universe will thank you for it.
Hey Love Sprouters,
I hope you are all gearing up for a fabulous Memorial Day Weekend!
Nobody deserves a day off more than my fellow New Yorkers! That is why I am writing you before the weekend…so you can get this juicy info,
then turn off your computer for 3 days and marinate in it like a nice
piece of tempeh (I am a vegetarian :)).
So, as my opening line says, it is not what you know, but what you don’t know that can get in the way or hurt you. I work with uber “aware” and “with-it” clients. My clients have done so much self-inquiry and self-awareness work, they probably know what undies they are wearing today (do you?) because they are so “in the moment”. All joking aside, I consider myself one of those women along with my clients…however, sometimes, no amount of self-help book reading, meditation, Louise Hay mantra work, Jerry Hick’s Law of Attraction work, and Shakti Gawain’s visualizations will do the trick. Don’t get me wrong…these authors and their messages are unbelievable and still continue to guide me today, but that is because I have gotten to the root of a lot of my issues. You see, we come here with some weeds and we can mow the lawn, but they will keep coming back…we gotta pull them out at the damn stubborn roots…the problem is, where the hell did the roots originate from? Often times, there are hidden familial and ancestral entanglements that are unknown to us, and so we become frustrated when our spiritual practice isn’t delivering
quite the bliss we had hoped. The yoga, the chants..all of it..they are
beautiful flowers ready and waiting to adorn your garden…so let’s get picking at those weeds.
The work I do that I am most passionate about is unveiling some of those truths and entanglements that are hidden, bringing them to light, and healing them so we can move forward. That is my focus this summer as so many of us become focused on the outside (how hot or not will I look in my bikini?). While this is super important, it all starts from the inside. Please read below to take advantage of two very special opportunities to pull out those weeds so you can plant your paradise and show the world who you really are…outside of your ancestral entanglements. I have a very special offer available for only those on my newsletter, so take advantage before June 1, or you’ll be super bummed! Plus, both of these life-changing intensives only have a few seats left, so don’t miss out. I am looking to work with women who are ready to move past the surface, even if it is not pleasant, and be willing to endure the short term pain for long term gain, so that they can finally breathe deeply and with ease and confidence. I hope that woman is you!
