So many of us navigate life angry at our mothers, or rejecting her, or really pissed off at all the stuff she did or didn’t do. The problem is, when we ‘live’ life this way, we really aren’t living at all… we are robbing ourselves of so much goodness in this world. You see, our moms gave us life, and if we deny her, we deny life. If we reject her, we reject ourselves (we are half her). If we block her, we are blocking ourselves of life-force energy.
I get a lot of clients who struggle with their mothers. In fact, this is the most common thing I see. Within one individual or group session, we are able to broaden the lens and see where separation has occurred. And, in all of the instances I’ve seen, underneath the anger, angst and frustration, really lies a longing. This is a precious longing that only really exists between a mother and child. We have needs that only a mother can fulfill and so the desirous feelings are underneath it all. When we can straighten out the kinks, and let love flow again between the one who gave you life, and then kept you alive (even if you disagree with the methods used), we can go with the flow of life.
Without being in ‘right relationship’ with mom, we cannot fully turn to a man (or a woman) in a relationship,we can’t be as successful in business as we want to be, and we can’t be as vibrant, youthful and healthy as we have the capacity to be. Lack of life force energy from mom = lack of luster in all areas of life. Being in ‘right relationship’ with mom also means no being your mom’s mom, partner, gal pal, etc. Just her daughter. Once this is in line, the magic can begin to happen.
I have witnessed so many real-life examples of this happening with clients in my practice, but for you, let’s look at fairy tales. Fairy tales are sort of like Greek myths, in the sense that they are very archetypal and in them, exist many systemic and family dynamics. If you think about most fairy tales they all have an element of magic + a damsel in distress that has one, or both, parents missing. This is actually a very common dynamic here in the US, whether they are physically or emotionally ‘not there’. The woman in the fairy tale finds herself helpless, poor, and waiting for her prince to rescue her. Finally, things begin to change…
What causes this shift, or the magic to happen, so to speak? Let’s take a look at our beloved Cinderella. Poor Cinderella is raised by her rather homely looking and cruel step-mom and step-sisters. She wears rags and is covered in ashes from cleaning out the fireplace. Then her MOTHER comes into the picture (archetyped as her fairy godmother, but still, her mother’s spirit). Now, there is a glimmer of hope. In a very short amount of time, she gets a coach, some hot duds, her heroic prince and most importantly, freedom from the step family!! Having her mother have her back, and her receiving her mother’s guidance, Cinderella goes from miserable to magnificent! We see this dynamic time and time again in many fairy tales and in real life!
Are you still searching for your freedom? Your prince? Your money that could buy you those clothes or a car? That radiant perfect health? That bod you’ve always wanted? Perhaps you really need your mommy. You see, mom gave you life, and without life force energy, how can we be successful in any arena of life? Often times, we need to be in ‘right’ relationship with mom, and often we aren’t even if we think we are. When we are aligned correctly with mom, then the magic can happen. I know this from personal experience and from many other women that I have helped. I am offering an exclusive discount to the Bella Life community of 10% off my 1-1 coaching program designed to help you streamline your waist and your life through this work (must begin in June).
Though Mothers Day has just recently passed, I hope you can appreciate the gift of life from mom everydayand start to let the magic happen, Bella Beauty! xo
