Save the Tulips! I’m Pissed!
Are you feeling feisty this spring instead of fuzzy? Congrats, you are normal! In fact, anger is a natural emotion for spring. Ideally, we are operating under the energy of assertiveness…this is where we burst forth from the soil and declare our existence. However, just as everything in this world has a Jack to it’s Jill, we too have a yin to the yang. It is necessary, so don’t fight it. The yin to assertiveness’ yang is anger. Anger is a common feeling that comes up in the spring and there is a fine line between it and it’s partner, assertiveness. I experienced this as I was making this newsletter. I was quite pleased with my good old fashioned email newsletters. However, I went to a marketing class and the teacher said to me, “Would a six-figure healer send newsletters via email? Would a six-figure healer write her website on her business cards because she feels too bad about throwing the old ones away?” Well, I am not six-figured, but hey, I guess I need to be working towards that. I bit the bullet and tried out this professional stuff…not so easy…I can just here my teacher now, “would a six-figure healer sit in her pajamas all day trying to figure this out for herself, or would she hire someone?” Some habits die hard. I am a stubborn “learn it and do it for myself-type”. Which is great…most of the time…until, my assertiveness turns to anger. “Why wont this damn template work? What is up with this wonky-ass formatting? What was wrong with my old newsletters in the first place, punk?”
I’m sure you’ve witnessed your own account of assertiveness gone wrong everyday in NYC. Take, for example, as you enter a NYC bus or subway…you don’t want to get left behind, so you forge your way upward (after all, you were the first one waiting). Then, out of the peripheral of your eye, you see moms with strollers, pushy business men, and clueless kids texting on their phones charging ahead of you. Your assertiveness starts changing to anger and you clench your fists and jaws as you push back will equal force and squeeze your way up first! Victory!? Or did you let anger take over? If you catch yourself in a situation that has crossed over from assertiveness to anger, no worries. Take a deep breath. Tell yourself you are normal. Snap out of the mode and mood by doing a couple quick jumping jacks, averting your attention to a cute puppy, or playing a fun song on your ipod. Perhaps you are brave enough to journal what this is about? Do you feel there is not enough (space, money, love, etc) for everyone? Are you pissed off at your boyfriend? Where is this coming from? Once you’ve acknowledged it, you can begin to move through it. I hope that you primarily stay in a the framework of assertiveness this spring and show the world who you are! We have some great workshops coming up to help you work on your self expression! BOING! Spring into your true self!
